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Letter to an ex-lover: an explanation and gratitude

♦ Editor's Note:  In this actual letter one of our readers (who wishes to remain anonymous), writes to an ex-lover and explains himself and exposes his gratitude and true thoughts about their relationship.  ♦

The Dear Jane: Why we broke up; why I am grateful to you

Hi.  How are you?  I hope you are well.  Why am I writing to you?  Well, recently I attended a class to achieve more insight into my own life and choices that I have been making and I realized something very important while there.

I realized that I had been inauthentic about the reasons I broke up with you.

When I said you are a wonderful woman, I truly meant it.  You are the most amazing woman that I have ever been in a realtionship with and I cherish the good memories that I have of the two of us.

But I knew at the moment that I escalated our relationship from being friends to more than friends, that I was making a mistake - even though the next year and a half were probably the happiest time of my life.  When we broke up, I told you that I always felt there was something missing within our relationship, and that was true.

When we were dating, I fell in love with the wonderful person that is you.  But I was never physically attracted to you.  It was so easy to not think about that in the beginning because I was having so much fun being with you, that I just blocked it out of my mind.  As time went on and we started to talk about spending the rest of our lives together, I was forced to really think hard about what I wanted out of a relationship.

And I realized that I want the full package.

I want to spend my time with someone who I am attracted to emotionally, mentally and physically.  That's not to say that you are not an attractive woman, because I saw many guys who were really into you while we were going out.  But I was never one of them.  In fact, I was envious of them.  They saw the one thing that I didn't...and I really wanted to.

You really are an incredibly wonderful woman and I am sorry that you weren't the woman for me.  I would feel very lucky if you were.  I wish that you didn't have to suffer through my struggles for me to learn what I wanted from a relationship. 

I promise you that I understand now, because of our time together, that I have the possibility of creating a complete relationship with a woman and that I will not settle for anything less - and I want the same for you.  You helped me get here and I feel an intense gratitude toward you for this and so many things. 

I hope that some day, you can learn to forgive my actions at the end of our relationship, because you deserve to have a wonderful life...with someone who appreciates and deserves you.

P.S.  I still want my stuff back. ♥